Family Chronicle: The how-to-guide to tracing your ancestors published Marianne’s article in the May/June 2014 issue of their magazine. Below is the article that they had included in their publication. www.familychronicle.com
My father’s picture of Adolph Perry, circa 1950, that he displayed in our childhood home.
Genealogical research can help establish personal relationships with our ancestors. By discovering facts, recording anecdotal stories and examining memorabilia, people from our past come alive. Genealogical research eliminates the boundaries of time and place. It provides insight into family dynamics and deepens our connections with previous generations.
Adolph Perry, my father’s brother and my intended godfather, died at twenty-four shortly before I was born. I lived within his shadow for years and genealogical research enabled me to establish a personal relationship with him.
This article will outline the seven steps I followed.
1 Understand Family Dynamics
I had three fathers and two mothers in my second-generation Canadian-Italian famiglia; such was the role godparents played in our family dynamics.
My godmother and two godfathers were my father’s younger siblings. Chosen before my birth and sanctified by the Roman Catholic Church at my baptism, they were lifelong advisors. The individuals were selected and positions accepted with deliberation for if either parent died, they would help raise me.
I often discussed issues with them rather than my parents; a situation expected and endorsed. I maintained close ties with my godparents until their deaths and, despite Adolph’s passing and subsequent replacement; he remained my godfather-in-spirit.
Why had my father selected Adolph as godfather?
Why had Adolph accepted this responsibility?
Record verifying Adolfo Perry was born January 25, 1928 in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario and baptized May 20th. Pietro Perry and Caterina Androli parents; Maria and V. Orandlo, godparents; Rev. C. C. Fawcett. (Drouin Collection. Ancentry.ca)
2 Record The Stories
Genealogical research seeks facts substantiated by documentation; anecdotal stories illuminate the society within which our ancestor lived and reveal family dynamics. Establishing a personal relationship with Adolph demanded both; recording his stories marked my starting point.
Adolph and my godmother were born in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario, Canada, in 1928. My Calabrian grandparents believed it bad luck to have children born the same year so, as Adolph’s birth was first, they shifted her date to 1929.
After high school, Adolph moved to Toronto, Ontario, my mother’s hometown, to live with my parents and study accounting. When my godmother waved goodbye to him at the train station, she sensed she’d never see him again. Her intuition rang true for Adolph died in Toronto a few months later.
My parents adored Adolph as he did them, my mother has said. He was a dark-haired, handsome gentleman, meticulousin appearance and he always brought her butter tarts.
Adolph apparently died from leukemia or an infection related to a tonsillectomy; irrespective of the cause, death came quickly in April 1952.
By this time, my parent’s firstborn child had already died; my brother was one-year-old and my mother pregnant with me. They’d intended to live in Toronto but after two deaths in his family, my father deemed this untenable. By August 1952, they’d returned to Sault Ste. Marie and moved in with my grandparents. I was born in October and my father’s youngest brother appointed godfather.
Adolph’s stories were cloaked in superstition and mystery and I wanted to learn the truth about him.
Adolph’s neat handwritting suggested an attentive person and the flourish in the lettering, an artistic flair. I wondered if Adolph liked pickles on his hamburger, too. Combined with his photography, knowing Adolph was five feet seven inches tall helped me picture him better.
3 Validate Existing Facts
Reviewing family records was my next step. My father supported my genealogical research and gave me several documents before he died; none, however, were pertinent to Adolph. I had no birth certificate nor could his death date be verified. When I began, all I had was my father’s black and white photograph of Adolph circa 1950 that he’d displayed on a bookshelf in the living room of our childhood home.
4 Examine Your Connection
Adolph’s death had altered my destiny and reversed our family dynamics. I should have been born and raised in Toronto and not a small, industrial town in Northern Ontario. My mother’s Sicilian family lived there but my bond was stronger with my paternal Calabrian roots in Sault Ste. Marie. Not withstanding the anecdotal stories, the lack of substantiated information rendered my connection with Adolph superficial.
What could I learn from genealogical research?
The picture of my father, Arnold Joseph Perry, circa 1941, Adolph carried in his wallet.
5 Embrace The Magic of Genealogy
Genealogical research is a painstaking process demanding patience and persistence. It is also magical and sometimes delivers unexpected rewards that deepen ancestral connections.
I had been conducting research to solve family mysteries for years when I reconnected with a cousin by chance the summer of 2012. Our fathers had been brothers and he’d returned to sell his parent’s home. As he was sifting through memorabilia, he set aside some things for me. When I sorted them later, I discovered a handwritten letter from Adolph Perry.
Dated February 3, 1952, the letter was addressed to Adolph’s mother in Sault Ste. Marie and written shortly after he’d moved to Toronto. My cousin was unaware of our connection and we remarked about the coincidence. When he returned at Christmas, he gave me Adolph’s wallet. Among the contents was a photograph of my father circa 1941, a poem penned in Adolph’s handwriting and his 1951 Ontario driver’s license.
By examining Adolph’s memorabilia, I glimpsed everyday details of his life including:
- he’d gone to Sault Ste. Marie, Michigan for Mac’s Hamburgers
- he’d kept a handwritten copy of a romantic poem celebrating friendship in his wallet
- his parents had mailed him homemade Italian salami in Toronto
Had Adolph wanted to establish a personal connection with me? I’d like to think so.
6 Explore Genealogical Resources
This chart displays facts I discovered about Adolph Perry after considerable time and effort. Resources consulted have been identified and the information arranged to establish a timeline of his life.
Adolph’s timeline
7 Assess The Impact of Genealogical Research
Why had my father selected Adolph as my godfather? Why had Adolph accepted this responsibility?
Genealogical research helped answer these questions.
Like my father, Adolph had wanted a life of his own design. Their shared conviction set the stage for his move to Toronto, plans to study accounting and intended role as my godfather. Their bond was evidenced by a photograph I found in Adolph’s wallet of my father dressed in naval uniform circa 1941.
Loss changes family dynamics by either tightening or weakening ties. Adolph was the first of nine siblings to die; three brothers including my father had served in World War Two and returned home. After returning to Sault Ste. Marie, our life was interwoven with the Perry family. In retrospect, I now understand that this close dynamic helped everyone garner strength to move forward.
My genealogical research about Adolph Perry continues but my relationship with him has already been transformed. The boundaries of time and place have been eliminated for by discovering facts, recording anecdotal stories and examining memorabilia, I have gained insight into the real person. My memories of Adolph no longer focus on his death; they also celebrate his life.
Concluding Statements
Adolph Perry is no longer a stranger. When I visit his grave at Holy Sepulchre Cemetery now, I mourn the loss of a godfather with whom genealogical research has enabled me to establish a special connection.
